Genesis 2:24 (NKJV) Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
Marriage is a union in which a man and a woman leave their parents to become “one flesh.” Establishing this union on the foundation of unconditional love is crucial because no one is perfect, and there will be weaknesses and shortfalls. Therefore, we must love our spouse unconditionally, ensuring our relationship is not based on conditions or friendship alone. Open and honest communication is essential on this journey.
Having the urge and ambience to make love is difficult when the relationship is filled with criticism, accusation, and condemnation. If a person has grown up in an environment where they suffered criticism, rejection and condemnation and did not feel loved, they might be especially sensitive towards similar criticism from the spouse; it is difficult to make love when you are hurt and emotionally unfulfilled. Therefore, we must ensure that our words are seasoned with salt and grant grace to the hearer. That’s part of good communication in a marriage.
Communicating love develops intimacy between husband and wife. Love is expressed to the other person through their love languages. It is vital for us to love through their predominant love language so that the person feels loved. Besides loving through their love languages, we should also affirm them through words of encouragement. When we express love through the love language of our spouse, they will feel loved, and it will be easier for the relationship to climax with Eros or sensual love.
How do we communicate effectively in a marriage, and what are some of the topics that can be discussed between the couple?
- What are the difficulties that you are facing at work?
- How are you doing emotionally?
- How are you doing spiritually? What is God speaking or showing you?
- Share your plan for the date night with them.
- Share with them things that happened in the day that would interest them.
Men are aroused by sight, while women are aroused by emotional engagement. A woman needs to feel wooed, pursued and cherished emotionally. The wooing, pursuing, and cherishing can also come through words as well as action. There must be affection shown to her. By engaging her emotionally—listening to her and crafting out time for her, he will come across as someone who cares and loves his wife.
Ephesians 5:29 (NKJV) For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church.
Sermon Series: Before You Say I Do (Lesson 12)
沟通至关重要
创世记 2:24 因此人要离开父母，与妻子连合，二人成为一体。
婚姻是一个男人和一个女人离开父母连合成为“一体”。在无条件的爱的基础上建立这种结合是至关重要的，没有人是完美的，也都会有弱点和不足。因此，婚姻中需要无条件的爱我们的配偶，确保我们之间的关系不是基于有条件的爱或友谊。在这段旅程中，敞开和坦诚的沟通至关重要。
当婚姻关系中充满了批评、指责和谴责时，想要有做爱的冲动和好的氛围是很困难的。当一个人成长在一个遭受批评，拒绝和谴责的环境中，也从未感受过爱，他们会对伴侣的类似批评言行特别敏感；因此，当你感受到伤害和情感上的缺乏时，夫妻间的性行为就很难发生。因此，我们必须确保我们的话语是用盐调和的，并给予倾听者恩惠。这是婚姻里的良好沟通的一部分。
在沟通时表达出的爱能增进夫妻之间的亲密关系。爱是通过对方的爱的语言来表达的。至关重要的是，我们爱配偶的方式是通过他（她）的主要的爱的语言，让对方感受到被爱。我们也应该通过鼓励的话语来肯定彼此。当我们通过配偶的爱的语言来表达爱时，他（她）们就会感受到爱，并且更容易达到性爱或感官之爱的高潮。
婚姻关系里该如何有效的沟通？哪些话题会成为夫妻之间沟通的内容?
- 你在工作中遇到了哪些困难?
- 你的情绪和情感上还好吗?
- 你的属灵状况怎么样?上帝在对你表达什么或正向你显明什么?
- 与他（她）们分享你的约会计划。
- 和她（他）分享当天发生的，她（他）们感兴趣的事情。
男人是由视觉唤起的，而女人是由情感唤起的。女人需要情感上的吸引、追求和珍惜。这些吸引、追求、珍惜，可以用语言和行动来表达。一定要表达对她的爱意。通过与她进行情感上的沟通– 倾听她的心声，为她精心计划安排时间，这样做的他会是一位关心和爱妻子的丈夫。
以弗所书 5:29 因为没有人恨恶自己的身体。总是保养爱惜，正像基督待教会一样。
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