1 Timothy 3:11 (NKJV) Likewise, their wives must be reverent, not slanderers, temperate, faithful in all things.
Ephesians 5:33 (NKJV) Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
What does the Bible say about how a wife should behave? The above Scriptures say she should love God and have a reverential fear of Him, and she should respect her husband.
Some women are highly opinionated, critical, loud, unkind, and condescending in their words. They often hold negative attitudes, are controlling, and radiate negative vibes. These women tend to struggle with their husbands. They are high-maintenance and challenging to live with at home, which will take a toll on the marital relationship.
A critical wife will make her husband feel that nothing he does is ever good enough. Being constantly unkind with her words will break the husband’s spirit. This is also applicable to the husband’s behaviour towards the wife. When the wife is overly controlling in what he can or cannot do, it will make the husband want to break free. Of course, the husband must also establish trust by being upfront, candid, self-revealing, keeping promises, behaving consistently, and clarifying if necessary.
A woman should not be temperamental, meaning she will not exhibit aggressive behaviour in their words or actions, whether at home or in public. She has a redeemed personality because she allows the Holy Spirit to lead them and walk in the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus. She knows God’s Word and practises living it out daily, particularly in the way she treats her husband with respect.
Some wives will tell their husbands off in front of their friends and even belittle them for what they have or haven’t done. There is no respect or regard for the husband’s feelings. It is even worse when she earns more and has more assets than he does. The husband will be hurt and ashamed in front of their friends and children. It is an utter disrespect of the husband to belittle or shame him publicly and in front of the children.
If she is Spirit-filled, she can control her emotions by living from the inside out. She respects her husband, who is the head of the house appointed by God. She will be wise enough to know what to say, when and how to say it, without being disrespectful. She walks in the Spirit and does not gratify the desires of the flesh that seek to live independently of God. She is submissive to the Lordship of Christ because Jesus is her Saviour, and she recognises the authority of the Word.
If a couple has agreed that she should return to the workforce, then both the husband and wife should divide the family’s responsibilities, especially the needs of the children. She is faithful in all things given to her.
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一个敬虔妻子的样式
提摩太前书 3:11 女执事也是如此，必须端庄，不说谗言，有节制，凡事忠心。
以弗所书 5:33 然而你们各人都当爱妻子，如同爱自己一样；妻子也当敬重她的丈夫。
圣经对妻子该如何行事为人有什么教导？以上经文指出，妻子应当爱神，并存着敬畏神的心，同时敬重她的丈夫。
有些女性非常有主见、爱批评、声音大、说话不和气，言语中带有轻蔑。她们常常心怀负面态度，控制欲强，散发出一种负面的氛围。这类妻子往往与丈夫相处不易，是所谓的“高维护型”，在家庭生活中令人难以应付，这也会对婚姻关系带来消耗。
一个爱挑剔的妻子会让丈夫觉得无论他做什么都不够好；若常用不友善的语言对待丈夫，会逐渐摧毁他的心志。这一点同样适用于丈夫对妻子的行为方式。当妻子对丈夫的言行控制过多，什么可以做、什么不能做都要干涉时，会让丈夫产生挣脱的想法。当然，丈夫也必须建立信任，例如说话坦诚、愿意自我敞开、信守承诺、行为一致，并在需要时给予解释。
一个妻子不应是喜怒无常的人。也就是说，她无论在家中还是在公众场合，都不会以言语或行为表现出攻击性。她拥有一个被救赎的性情，因为她愿意让圣灵引导她的生命，并遵行那在基督耶稣里，使人得生命之灵的律。她认识神的话语，并每日操练活出这道，特别是在她如何敬重丈夫的态度上。
有些妻子会在朋友面前责备丈夫，甚至因为丈夫所做或未做的事而贬低他，丝毫没有尊重或顾念丈夫的感受。若妻子的收入和资产比丈夫多，情况就更为严峻。丈夫在朋友和孩子面前会感到受伤和羞愧。无论是在公开场合还是在孩子面前贬低或羞辱丈夫，都是对丈夫极大的不尊重。
若她是被圣灵充满的，她就能从里面活出来，掌管自己的情绪。她尊重丈夫，因为丈夫是神所设立的家中的头。她有足够的智慧知道该说什么、何时说、如何说，而不是带着不敬的态度表达。她随从圣灵而行，不放纵那试图脱离神而独立行事的肉体私欲。她顺服基督的主权，因为耶稣是她的救主，她也承认神话语的权柄。
若夫妻双方已达成共识，决定让妻子重返职场，那么丈夫与妻子就应当共同承担家庭责任，尤其是孩子的各样需要。她在所交托的一切事上都是忠心的。
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