1 Corinthians 11:3 (NKJV) But I want you to know that the head of every man is Christ, the head of woman is man, and the head of Christ is God.
Ephesians 5:23-24 (NKJV) For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Saviour of the body. Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.
If we want to experience a blessed marriage, we must remember the divine order of God, Christ, man, and woman. We are not advocating that women are of lesser worth and significance than men, or have no voice, rights, or standing, but that this is the order that God has put in place. In the context of the home, the woman’s position is after the man.
While women should have equal salaries to men, have the right to vote, a voice in society, and be protected, feminist advocacy should never be brought into the home. It would only introduce chaos because God did not ordain the woman to take leadership in the family. Even if the woman comes from a matriarchal culture, her attitude can change if she is saved and lives under the teachings of the Bible.
The first feminist movement began in the Garden of Eden when Eve’s desire arose and she conversed with the devil about eating the fruit from the tree of knowledge of good and evil. She usurped the role that belonged to her husband, Adam, thus creating tension between their God-given roles. The leadership of Adam and the willing submission of Eve were God’s original intention at creation, and Eve was created to be a helpmate, a role that complements her husband rather than competes with him. God’s order for the family is that the man should lead the wife. For the good of the home and the family, the Christian couple should adopt and accept this order.
Here are the possible scenarios in some families today:
- The wife is the head of the house; the husband is passive.
- The husband is trying to be the head of the household, but faces significant resistance from the wife. She wants equal rights and may even undermine his leadership.
- There are two heads in the house. Thus, the home is marked by confusion, strife, anger, tension, and bitterness.
- The husband is the head of the house, and he has a submissive and supportive wife. There is peace, love, and joy in the home.
There must always be only one head in every organisation or body in order for it to function well.
Sermon Series：The head of woman is man?
只有一个头
哥林多前书 11:3 我愿意你们知道，基督是各人的头；男人是女人的头；神是基督的头。
以弗所书 5:23-24 因为丈夫是妻子的头，如同基督是教会的头——他又是这身体的救主。教会怎样顺服基督，妻子也要照样凡事顺服丈夫。
如果我们渴望经历一个蒙福的婚姻，就必须记住神所设立的次序：神、基督、男人、女人。我们并不是在主张女性比男性低微、缺乏价值，或没有声音、权利与地位，而是强调这是神所设立的次序。在家庭的结构中，妻子的位分是在丈夫之后。
在社会层面上，女性应当享有与男性相等的薪资、有选举的权利、在社会中发声的空间，并应受到应有的保护；但女权主义的观念不应被带入家庭中。因为神并没有设立女人在家庭中担任领导的角色。即使一位姊妹来自母系文化背景，只要她得救并活在圣经的教导之下，她的心态也能够被更新而有所改变。
女权主义的起源可以追溯到伊甸园。那时夏娃起了自己的心意，与蛇对话并讨论那分别善恶树上的果子是否可以吃。她便越过了丈夫亚当该承担的角色，从而打破了神所设立的角色次序，使两者之间产生了张力。亚当的带领与夏娃甘心的顺服，是神在创造之初就设定的心意；夏娃被造，是作为亚当的帮助者，是与他互为补足，而不是彼此竞争。神为家庭设立的次序是：丈夫带领，妻子顺服。为了家庭的益处与和谐，基督徒夫妻应当领受并顺服这一属天的安排。
在今日的一些家庭中，可能出现以下几种情况：
- 妻子是家中的主导者，而丈夫则是被动的角色；
- 丈夫想承担起家中的带领责任，却面临妻子的强烈抵触。妻子坚持平等的权利，甚至削弱或挑战丈夫的权威；
- 家中存在两个“头”。结果便是家庭中充满混乱、纷争、愤怒、紧张和苦毒；
- 丈夫是家中的头，妻子则顺服、支持。这样的家庭充满平安、爱与喜乐。
每一个组织或整体要运作顺畅，都必须只有一个头。
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