Genesis 1:28a (NKJV) Then God blessed them, and God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply.”
God designed sex for procreation, pleasure, communication, and release within the marriage. Having babies is a commandment from God. Therefore, we can stand on this commandment and believe in God when we are praying for babies.
God has always intended that marriage be between a man and a woman. A man cannot give birth, doesn’t have a womb, nor can a woman play the role of a man. It is the role of the woman to be impregnated and give birth to children. It is designed by God for the woman to have the egg and the man the sperm for procreation.
Sadly, many young couples today are reluctant to have babies because of the high cost of raising children and the priority of developing their careers, and many have decided to have pets as companions instead of carrying out good family planning.
Deuteronomy 7:13-14 (NKJV) And He will love you and bless you and multiply you; He will also bless the fruit of your womb and the fruit of your land, your grain and your new wine and your oil, the increase of your cattle and the offspring of your flock, in the land of which He swore to your fathers to give you. You shall be blessed above all peoples; there shall not be a male or female barren among you or among your livestock.
Nonetheless, the wife is to be respected and not treated like a baby production machine. Because God instructed us to multiply after ourselves through childbirth, the womb is blessed, and babies are a blessing and not a burden or a curse in the lives of a married couple. Much joy comes to the family when a baby is born.
Besides procreation, sex within marriage is also meant for pleasure, recreation, and release. Lovemaking engages many of our bodily senses. A man bonds with his wife through sex. Therefore, the woman must understand that the husband feels connected through sex. It is his way of expressing love and being emotionally connected with his wife through sex. The couple becomes one in the flesh through making love.
Nonetheless, men and women are made differently. The Bible instructs the husband to nourish and cherish the wife (Ephesians 5:29). It addresses the emotional aspect of the marriage relationship. Although a woman will bond through sex, what matters more to her is affection and emotional engagement before sex. Hence, unconditional love is necessary before the relationship climaxes with Eros or sensual love. A woman feels fulfilled when she is emotionally engaged, being heard, and acknowledged. While the man can have the same kind of fulfilment through various love languages, the ultimate is still sexual satisfaction.
Sermon Series: Before You Say I Do (Lesson 12)
他的需求，她的需求
创世记 1:28a 上帝赐福给他们，上帝对他们说: “要生养众多。”
上帝设计性是为了在婚姻中生育、愉悦、交流和释放。 生育是上帝的诫命。 因此，当我们为生育祈祷时，我们可以站在这条诫命上并相信上帝。
上帝规划的婚姻始终是在男女之间。男人不能生育; 他没有子宫，女人也不能扮演男人的角色。怀孕和生孩子是女人的角色。这是上帝设计的，让女人拥有卵子，让男人拥有精子来生育。
可悲的是，如今许多年轻夫妇因为养育孩子的成本高昂和优先发展事业而不愿生孩子，许多人决定养宠物作为陪伴，而不是进行良好的计划生育。
申命记 7:13-14 他必爱你，赐福与你，使你人数增多，也必在他向你列祖起誓应许给你的地上赐福与你身所生的，地所产的，并你的五谷，新酒和油，以及牛犊，羊羔。你必蒙福胜过万民。你们的男女没有不能生养的，牲畜也没有不能生育的。
尽管如此，妻子应该受到尊重，而不是被当作生育的机器。 因为上帝指示我们通过分娩来繁衍后代，所以子宫是蒙福的，孩子们对已婚夫妇的生活来说是一种祝福，而不是负担或诅咒。 当婴儿出生时，家庭会充满欢乐。
除了繁衍后代，婚姻内的性行为也意味着快乐、欢娱和释放。 做爱涉及我们的许多身体感官。男人通过性与妻子建立联系。 因此，女人必须明白，丈夫通过性感到被联结。他通过性表达爱意并与妻子建立情感联系。夫妻俩通过做爱而成为一体。
尽管如此，男人和女人生来是不同的。圣经教导丈夫要保养顾惜妻子（以弗所书 5:29），是要解决婚姻关系的情感方面。虽然女人会通过性来建立联系，但对她来说更重要的是性之前的爱情和情感投入。因此，在情爱或性爱的关系达到高潮之前，无条件的爱是必要的。当女人投入情感、被倾听和被认可时，她会感到满足。虽然男人可以通过各种爱的语言获得同样的满足，但最终的仍然是性满足。
讲章系列: 步向红毯之前（第十二课）
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