Hebrews 13:4 (NKJV) Marriage is honourable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.
God designed sex for procreation, pleasure, communication, and release within a marriage. He did not create casual sex, nor does He condone it. Sexual ethics help us to understand what God created us to be. It points us to our relationship with God and with each other. We must not give up sexual morality, and it is not outdated. Sex matters to God; therefore, it should matter to us.
We are being bombarded by the secular worldview on sex on mainstream and social media, and it is an incorrect view. Therefore, parents must have a proper perspective and biblical understanding of sex in marriage so that they can explain, teach, and journey with their children on this topic. There is a misperception that Christians are dull, legalistic, and religious, especially when it comes to sex. The truth is that Christians can have good and healthy sex within the marriage, which brings sexual relationships to a whole new level as compared to the secular worldview.
Because everything that is meant for good can be perverted by the devil, there must be parameters when it comes to sex. For example, fire is good for warming the house but destructive when raging in the forest. Therefore, fire must have a parameter to provide heat for the home or cooking. It is only safe with parameters and dangerous when left unattended. Likewise, sex must be enjoyed within the parameters of a covenant marriage relationship because it is destructive when engaged outside of marriage. Therefore, we should not travel by sharing the same room because lack of self-control will cause us to commit fornication.
Many babies are born into this world because of fornicators who seek pleasures without responsibilities. Consequently, many people grow up thinking that they are mistakes because of irresponsible adults. Many people do not view the importance of abstinence from sex before marriage, and they would rather have pleasure without commitment and responsibility. Nonetheless, every child born into this world deserves a complete family so they can grow up in a secure environment and be loved. Although babies do not get to choose, adults can act appropriately and responsibly.
There is a trend to cohabit instead of committing to marriage, but we as Christians need to understand that by doing that, we are committing the act of fornication. Because we are made with emotions, during the process of fornication—especially if it ends in separation after a prolonged period—individuals will be hurt, which may have a long-term impact on our emotional health. Committing to marriage is the highest form of love and respect for the person we profess to love.
Sermon Series – Before You Say I Do (Lesson 12)
当尊重婚姻
希伯来书 13:4 婚 姻 , 人 人 都 当 尊 重, 床 也 不 可 污 秽 。因 为 苟 合 行 淫 的 人 神 必 要 审 判。
神创造性是为了在婚姻中的生育、愉悦，交流和释放。祂没有创造随意的性行为，也不会纵容这种行为。性伦理帮助我们了解上帝创造我们的样子。它指出我们与上帝以及彼此之间的关系。我们绝不能放弃性道德，它并没有过时。性对上帝很重要; 因此对我们也很重要。
世界对性的观念正在主流和社交媒体上轰炸我们，且它是错误的观点。因此，父母需要对婚姻中的性有正确的观念和符合圣经的理解，以便他们能够解释、教导和与孩子一起经历这个话题。有一种看法认为基督徒是沉闷的、律法主义的和宗教主义的，尤其是在性方面。实际上，基督徒可以在婚姻中拥有良好和健康的性行为，与世界观相比，这将性关系提升到一个全新的水平。
因为一切本来是好的事物都可能被魔鬼扭曲，因此性也必须有界限。 比如火的好处是可以让屋子暖和，但在森林中肆虐时却具有破坏性。因此，火在为家庭供暖或烹饪时必须有界限。火要有界限才是安全的，在无人看管时则是危险的。同样，性必须在盟约婚姻关系的范围内享受，因为在婚外进行是破坏性的。因此，我们不应该在旅行时共用一个房间，因为缺乏自我控制会导致我们犯奸淫。
许多婴儿出生在这个世界上，是因为淫乱者寻求快乐却没有负责任。结果，许多人在成长过程中为自己是不负责任的成年人所造成的错误。很多人没有意识到婚前禁欲的重要性，他们宁愿在没有承诺和责任的情况下享受快乐。但是每个出生在这个世界上的婴儿都值得拥有一个完整的家庭，这样他们可以在安全的环境中成长并被关爱。虽然婴儿无法选择，但成年人可以采取适当和负责任的行为。
现在的趋势是人们选择同居而不是委身于结婚，但身为基督徒的我们需要明白，这样做就是犯了奸淫。因为我们在被造时是有情感的。当性关系发生，尤其是长期的同居最后以分手告终，个人就会受到伤害，这可能会对我们的对情感健康造成长期的影响。委身于婚姻是对我们自称所爱的人最高形式的爱和尊重。
讲章系列：步向红毯之前（第十二课）
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