Ephesians 5:28-29 (NKJV) So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church.
Studies have shown an increase in domestic violence during the pandemic, but it has no place in a Christian home. We are to love our spouse as we love ourselves, for nobody will harm themselves but take care of their bodies, and we are to nourish and cherish them through words and action.
Domestic violence comes in different forms. Early warning signs include shouting, throwing things, road rage or wall-punching by those who cannot handle their emotions. Verbal abuse is demeaning others by name-calling and publicly shaming them, whereas mental and emotional abuse includes controlling or pressuring others to perform and disallowing them to express or disagree in a conversation. Financial abuse is not letting a spouse share in the assets, know their income, have a say in how money should be spent, or controlling them by giving them a meagre allowance. Physical abuse includes punching, pushing, slapping, and grabbing. Finally, sexual abuse includes forcing, coercing, or manipulating someone to watch pornography that leads to demeaning sexual acts.
Although lockdowns caused by the pandemic are revealing the good, the bad and the ugly, we should not waste the crisis! If we abide in God, reign in the flesh and walk in the Spirit, we should take time to sit down with our family to work things out and agree on everyone’s roles, responsibilities, and expectations. When we choose to communicate, extend help and grace to one another, we are walking in the Spirit, allowing love, joy, peace, kindness, goodness, gentleness, and self-control to flow, and when we are walking in love and the Spirit, we are prospering in our souls.
For those who may have been too busy working in the past and neglected their children, and are seeing the consequences now such as depression, rebellion, a wayward lifestyle, an addiction, or an illness, all of which are attempts to catch your attention, this lockdown has given you an opportunity to make things right by spending time with them, hearing them out, and choosing to journey with them if they are hurting, even though we need to acknowledge that there is no quick fix, and it will be a process to get them to accept and forgive us, and rebuild the relationship.
Holistic prosperity belongs to us, but we need to work on it especially in the realm of the soul. God has given us the ability to walk in love by abiding in Him and He has given us a new spirit, His nature, and the empowerment of the Holy Spirit to do what is required. As we live out the truth in our daily life, we will experience the abundant life.
Sermon Series: Work on Your Well Being