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0213-Godly Husbands 敬虔的丈夫

1 Peter 3:7 Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life that your prayers may not be hindered.There are roles that God has established within the family. The role of the husband is to take leadership as the head of the house, and the role of the wife is to submit, respect and support as a help mate.

The husband is instructed to dwell with his wife with understanding. When the Bible talks about wives being the “weaker vessel”, it is not belittling them but simply means they need someone to understand, support and journey with them. Husbands should get to know their wives, including what pleases and displeases them, and be sensitive about what they say. Women get very hurt when their husbands speak and act in ways that show they don’t know them or care about them.

To dwell with her also means not running away from her or purposely staying out late. When one is given the authority to head the household, what comes with it is responsibility. In order to live with them in understanding, we must take time to hear them out. The key is to realize that men and women are wired differently. Women can be easily swayed by their emotions and are more easily overwhelmed than men. Communication is vital to women and it means intimate sharing.

To give honour to the wife means husbands should value their wives’ opinion and seek it out before making major decisions. The husband needs not be seen like he needs to control everything. It will be a great encouragement to give her freedom to make certain decisions or take care of certain things.

Life will not be a challenge if we know that God has granted us grace for this life and grace to be married to someone. There will be grace for the couple to journey in life together, and there is the grace that God gives us to stand in faith and live the Christian life. When God gives us standing grace, He gives us ability for various areas of our lives. Whatever you need to know, be or do, God wants to give us grace in such a way that we will have His supernatural ability in that area, whether in your work, your homemaking, your responsibility as a husband, your children’s education or your spiritual life.

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敬虔的丈夫

彼得前书3:7 你们作丈夫的也要按情理和妻子同住;因他比你软弱,与你一同承受生命之恩的,所以要敬重他。这样,便叫你们的祷告没有阻碍。

上帝在家庭中设立了一些角色。丈夫的角色是作为一家之主来带领,而妻子的角色是作为配偶来服从,尊重和支持。

丈夫被教导要按情理和妻子同住。当圣经说到妻子“比丈夫软弱”时,这并不是在贬低她们,而只是意味着她们需要有人来理解,支持并与她们同行。丈夫应该了解他们的妻子,包括她们喜欢什么和不喜欢什么,并且对她们说的话要敏感。当丈夫的言行举止表明他们不了解或不关心她们时,妻子们会受到很大的伤害。

与她同住还意味着不要逃避她或故意迟迟晚归。当一个人被赋予管理家庭的权力时,随之而来的是责任。我们必须花时间来倾听她们的声音才能在理解中与她们同住。重要的是要意识到男人和女人是不同的。女人很容易被自己的情绪所左右,并且比男人更容易被情绪压倒。交流对女性至关重要,它意味着亲密的分享。

为了体现尊重,丈夫应该重视妻子的意见,并在做出重大决定之前先寻求妻子的意见。丈夫不需要被视为掌控一切事务的人,给予妻子做出一些决定或照看一些事务的自由是对妻子极大的鼓励。

如果我们知道上帝赐予我们今生的恩典和与他人结婚的恩典,生活将不再是一种挑战。夫妻将有相伴一生的恩典,有上帝赐给我们坚守信仰并过基督徒生活的恩典。当神赐给我们恩典常驻时,祂会在我们生活的方方面面赐与我们能力。无论什么是你所要知道,要做的,要成为的,神都要赐给我们恩典,无论是在你的工作,家庭生活,作为丈夫的责任,你的子女教育还是属灵生命中,神都使我们在这些领域中拥有祂的超自然的能力,

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