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0212-Beautiful in God’s Eyes 在神的眼中看为美好

1 Peter 3:1-4 Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives,2 when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear.3 Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel—4 rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.These verses give us God’s definition of a beautiful and attractive woman regardless of whether she is married or single. The Bible is not saying that women should not look nice, be fashionable or wear make-up, but one should not just concentrate on outward appearances.

In today’s society which emphasizes equal rights, individualism and self, the biblical teaching of submission or living a submissive life runs counter cultural. Submissiveness has to do with the attitude of the heart. The gentle and quiet spirit that flows through the heart will give a genuine submission. Submission also has to do with place and ranking. The Bible clearly states that the husband is the head of the wife, just as Christ is the head of the church. Therefore, a wife is to show respect to the husband for the position of leadership God has given him.

Submission involves an attitude of respect and a recognition of the responsibility of the one in authority. Rather than trying to thwart his will through manipulation or scheming, a submissive wife will seek to discover what her husband wants and do it to please him, as long as it doesn’t involve disobedience to God.

There is no submission needed when the husband and wife agree on something. Submission is only required when you have a different opinion, thought or course of action over certain issues that does not violate biblical values, principles and where lives are not endangered. Therefore, instead of quarreling or insisting that she is right, the wife who chooses to submit and remain quiet in support of the husband’s decision is blessed. In fact, when you choose to submit, and the outcome reveals to your husband that what you were thinking was right, then he will probably learn to listen to you and ask for your opinion in future. This is how you can win him over through the quiet and gentle spirit rather than through strife and quarrels.

Sermon Series: Divorce Paper


在神的眼中看为美好

彼得前书3:1-4 你们作妻子的要顺服自己的丈夫;这样,若有不信从道理的丈夫,他们虽然不听道,也可以因妻子的品行被感化过来;这正是因看见你们有贞洁的品行和敬畏的心。你们不要以外面的辫头发,戴金饰,穿美衣为妆饰;只要在里面存着长久温柔、安静的心为妆饰;这在神面前是极宝贵的。

这段经文界定了神对一个即美丽,又有魅力的女人的定义,不论她已婚或是单身。圣经没有说女人不应该看起来漂亮、穿着时髦或化妆,而是说一个人不能单关注外貌。

在今天这个强调平等权利、个人主义和自我的社会,圣经教导中关于顺服及过一个委身的生活是有违这个文化的。顺服与人的心态有关。流经内心的温柔安静的灵会带给人真实的顺服。顺服是和地点和和位份有关。圣经明确地指出,丈夫是妻子的头,如同基督是教会的头。因此,妻子当因着神所给与丈夫的领导地位而尊敬丈夫。

顺服涉及尊重的态度和承认当权者的责任。与其试图通过操纵或或密谋改变丈夫的心意,一个顺服的的妻子会寻求发现丈夫的需要,并满足取悦他,只要这不涉及对神的违背。

当丈夫与妻子对某一件事同心合意就无需顺服;唯有当两人对某些事情持不同的意见、想法或行动方针时才需要顺服,并且那件事即不违反圣经的价值观和原则,也不会使任何生命遭受威胁。因此,与其争执不休,固执己见,做妻子的选择顺服并以安静温柔的心支持丈夫的决定是蒙福的。实际上,当妻子选择顺服,而结果显示妻子的想法是正确后,丈夫将来就会学习听取妻子的意见。这就是你可以借着安静温柔的灵来赢得丈夫的方法。而不是藉着争执吵闹。

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