1 Peter 3:4 (NKJV) Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.
Some strong and successful career women have developed a kind of pride and aggressiveness by striving to be independent of man. Financial independence and success in their career may make them consciously or subconsciously belittle their husbands, and if not careful, this may brood resentment towards their husbands.
The world over-emphasizes outward beauty and achievements, but there is another form of beauty that the world has neglected which is far more attractive than external beauty—the inner beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit. This person is thoughtful, considerate, kind, gentle and gracious in her ways and her words. Somehow, people are attracted to the inner beauty and graciousness that flow out of this person although she might not be well-dressed or pretty by the world’s standards.
Galatians 6:1(NKJV) Brethren, if a man is overtaken in any trespass, you who are spiritual restore such a one in a spirit of gentleness, considering yourself lest you also be tempted.
When the above Scripture talks about those who are spiritual, it is referring to those who are walking in the Spirit. They understand the line of authority where the flesh is not allowed to rule their lives, but their spirit yields to the empowerment of the Holy Spirit in their lives.
We can either be walking in the flesh or the Spirit because there is no middle ground, and we will fall into temptation when we are walking in the flesh because the flesh wants to gratify the self and live independent of God.
This Scripture encourages those who are spiritual—who are able to be patient, gentle, gracious and kind—to journey with those who have fallen with a spirit of gentleness, because it is easy to be harsh and impatient with those who are trying to turn over a new leaf after they have fallen due to a lapse of judgment or impulse. We need to be gentle in teaching people how to grow from being a carnal to a Spirit-filled Christian and living a Spirit-empowered life.
Sermon Series: Fruit of the Holy Spirit – Patience, Kindness, Goodness and Gentleness
让你的温谦为人所知
腓立比书 4:5 当叫众人知道你们谦让的心。
我们生活在一个讲究效率和生产力的快节奏社会，为了完成工作，许多人失去了他们的温柔(谦让的心)，甚至可能下意识地伤害了别人的感情。然而，赞美主，我们有一个蒙了救赎的性格，能够顺服圣灵去向周围的人展现出温柔(谦让的心)。
彼得前书 3:4 只要以里面存着长久温柔、安静的心为妆饰；这在 神面前是极宝贵的。
一些坚强而又事业有成的女性努力不依靠男人而建立了一种自豪感和进取心。经济上的独立和事业上的成就可能会使她们有意无意地轻视自己的丈夫，如果不小心，这可能会滋生对丈夫的怨恨。
这个世界过分强调外在的颜值和成就，但有另一种形式的美却被世人忽视了，它远比外在的美更具吸引力，那就是温柔安静之灵的内在美。这样的人言谈举止周到体贴、善良温柔、谦和有礼。自然而然地，人们被这人从生命中所流露出的内在美和优雅所吸引，尽管就世人的标准，她可能没有华丽的衣着或漂亮的脸蛋。
加拉太书 6:1 弟兄们，若有人偶然被过犯所胜，你们属灵的人就当用温柔的心把他挽回过来；又当自己小心，恐怕也被引诱。
上面经文所提到的那些属灵的人，是指那些行在圣灵之中的人。他们明白权柄的界线，在那里肉体不能掌管他们的生命，而他们的灵则降服于圣灵在他们生命中的权能。
我们既可以凭血气行事，也可以靠圣灵而活，二者只能取其一，当我们凭血气行事时，我们将陷入试探，因为肉体要我们放纵自己，把上帝置之度外。
这段经文鼓励那些属灵的人 – 那些有耐心、温柔、恩慈和良善 – 用温柔的心与那些跌倒的人同行，因为出于论断或冲动，人一不小心就会对那些曾经跌倒如今想翻篇的人出言尖刻或不耐烦。我们需要温柔地教导人如何从属肉体的成长为圣灵充满的基督徒，并活出圣灵赋能的生命。
讲章系列: 圣灵的果子 – 忍耐、恩慈、良善和温柔