On October18’s evening, a rainy evening, we studied the 8th lecture in the book of The Measure of A Man, “Communicating Sensitively”. The meeting started with a happy meal, then followed by a birthday party celebrating the birthday of 4 brothers: Kenneth, Andre, Chu Chong and Dennis. 4 brothers shared their touching feeling and thoughts at this moment.
This evening’s subject is on Communicating Sensitively, the 8th attributes of a Godly Man. The scripture quoted is 1 Timothy 3:2 “Now the observer must be above reproach, the husband of but one wife, temperate, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach.”
This ability of being ABLE TO TEACH, has to be obtained by a spiritual and emotional maturity.
Communication is so important to all men who is working in any professional field, especially when communicating with a hostile stranger. What we say and how we deliver will determine a totally different kind of result. Pastor Gene shared a story of a CEO of a largest bank in Texas, Mike, who turned an original confrontational situation to a hospitable and friendly event. Mike dissolved the complain of a group of minority people who intended to create a headline news defacing the public image of the bank, but end up leaving his home happily and friendly. How did he managed to do that? A strong faith in Jesus Christ enabled Mike to view those strangers as brothers, a strong empathy enabled him to reach out to them and listen to their request and demands. He even went so far of sharing his conversion to Christ with them.
This story set the tone for this evening’s sharing between brothers. I was in a small group with 5 other brothers. Brothers’ real life experiences taught me the lesson of responding, not reacting when communicating with an angry or unhappy colleague, customer or a stranger. Praising others publicly and criticizing privately.
Men In Christ’s monthly meeting provide us with a rare opportunity of building each other up in the Spirit, and through times, we also deepen our fellowship. So come and join us!
十月十八日夜晚，空中飘着小雨。基督中的职场弟兄又聚在一起学习“圣洁男人的特征”的第八课“富于情感的沟通”。聚会开始是大家一起开心地聚餐，然后是十月生日的弟兄的生日派对。十月生日的弟兄共有4位：Kenneth, Andre, Chu Chong and Dennis。4位弟兄分享了此时的属灵见证和愿望。
今晚的学习主题是富有感情地沟通，圣洁男人的第八个特征。引用的经文是提摩太后书3章2节：作监督的，必须无可指责，只作一个妇人的丈夫，有节制，自守、端庄，乐意接待远人，善于教导。
这个善于教导的能力，必须通过灵命和情感的成熟才可以获得。
沟通对于在职场中人来说是如此地重要。特别是当我们遇到并不友好的陌生人时。在这样场合中，我们的言行将直接决定不同的结果。在播放的短片中，Gene牧师分享了一位德州最大的商业银行行长的一个故事。迈克在一个周六的上午，将一群本来是要到他家来抗议银行对少数族裔的贷款政策的一群不满的少数民族的客户，邀请进了他的家，通过充满感情的沟通，将他们变成了朋友，化解了他们的不满，最后开心友好地离开了。他们原本是准备好摄像机，录下迈克的反应，第二天制造一个头条新闻。迈克是如何做到的？基督信仰帮助迈克将这一群陌生人看作他的弟兄，强烈的同情心使得他愿意倾听他们的诉求。他甚至和他们分享了他信主的见证和经历。
这个故事为这晚的弟兄们的分享奠定了基调。我在一个6位弟兄的小组。弟兄们的现实生活的经验分享教会了我当遇到冲突甚至是敌对的环境时，面对一位不友好甚至是敌对的同事、顾客或陌生人时，不要随口而出地自然应对，而要经过冷静思考后的应对。当对待下属或雇员是，要当面表扬，私下批评。
基督中的职场弟兄给在职场中的我们提供了一个难得的在圣灵中彼此建造的机会。假以时日，我们之间的友谊也越来越深厚。欢迎来加入我们！